People-pleasing often looks like kindness, but its roots tell a different story. While true kindness comes from an authentic desire to give, people-pleasing is a survival mechanism born out of fear. It can take two forms: shrinking yourself to stay invisible or appeasing others by over-attuning to their emotions. Both stem from the same place—relationships that didn’t feel safe enough to let you be fully you.

If you’re wondering whether you’re being kind or people-pleasing, start by tuning into your body. Does it feel tense, like you’re trying to avoid danger, or does it feel expansive and nourishing? Healing the trauma behind people-pleasing is possible through somatic therapy, relational work, and immersive experiences that help you reconnect with your true self. True kindness isn’t about survival; it’s about freedom.

CPTSD doesn’t just affect your mind—it impacts your entire body, often in ways you might not expect. Chronic pain, digestive issues, relationship struggles, anxiety, and even eating disorders can all be rooted in unresolved trauma and a dysregulated nervous system. By retraining your nervous system and addressing these connections through somatic therapy, you can experience profound healing and reclaim your life.

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